I don't understand why people remain in unsuccessful relationships. Yes, marriage involves work, but it should not be corrosive. It should not limit you in terms of your growth as a professional or a person. In fact, your relationship should enhance these things - otherwise get out.
I do not understand why someone would get hitched, then stand by as she was made a virtual prisoner in the relationship: all other friends cut off, living in an untenable housing situation, and unable to work. All of the warning sign are there.
Of course, someone looking in may not understand my marriage. But, I don't understand how one's sense of reality could be so askew as to think I would put up with infidelity or that I would be oblivious to it should it exist. Marriage is not about succumbing to crazy.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
Oh the insanity!
My nephew is 3 years old and at an important stage in his psycho-social development. He is learning key concepts like right and wrong, actions and consequences, and who he is as an individual. Some people do not make it through this stage, and their lives are a series of failures. I have observed three distinct flavors of this type of crazy:
1. The schemer: Someone that is always looking for the quick and easy and will not put effort into anything. They believe that their next get rich plan will pay off. They never take responsibility for their own failings.
2. The martyr: The victim of life, who finds him or herself making poor choices and ending up in problematic situations. Life happens to them, and again they cannot reflect and take responsibility for the decisions they made. The concept of real consequences is lost on them.
3. The torcher: One who is so full of self-loathing, that s/he has to burn every bridge and sabotage every relationship and good thing that happens to him or her in order 1) to feel in control and 2) to prove their unworthiness.
All three personalities have a warped sense of reality, are unable to adequately self-reflect and grow, and live terrible lives.
I think in part that these personalities are from bad wiring to begin with, but also something going wrong during their ego development at age 3. I have great hopes for my nephew.
1. The schemer: Someone that is always looking for the quick and easy and will not put effort into anything. They believe that their next get rich plan will pay off. They never take responsibility for their own failings.
2. The martyr: The victim of life, who finds him or herself making poor choices and ending up in problematic situations. Life happens to them, and again they cannot reflect and take responsibility for the decisions they made. The concept of real consequences is lost on them.
3. The torcher: One who is so full of self-loathing, that s/he has to burn every bridge and sabotage every relationship and good thing that happens to him or her in order 1) to feel in control and 2) to prove their unworthiness.
All three personalities have a warped sense of reality, are unable to adequately self-reflect and grow, and live terrible lives.
I think in part that these personalities are from bad wiring to begin with, but also something going wrong during their ego development at age 3. I have great hopes for my nephew.
Monday, November 10, 2008
Fridge Wars....
i received this memo today....
I am taking back my offer to clean out one of the refrigerators in the lunchroom on a weekly basis. I have just had two phone calls berating me for doing the good deed today of disposing of food that was obviously well past the time that it could be eaten and/or was not dated. The rules have been posted on the bulletin board in the lunchroom for years. It is each employee’s responsibility to follow the rules and to label and date their food and to remove food and containers on a timely basis.
In the future, I won’t be touching any food in the refrigerator but my own. I will not be cleaning up the messes in the refrigerators left by other persons and disposing of the excess ice cubes and wiping clean the refrigerator surfaces and buying baking soda for the refrigerators . When the refrigerators get packed, dirty, smelly and intolerable, I will have to find an alternative location for my food that I bring on a daily basis.
I am taking back my offer to clean out one of the refrigerators in the lunchroom on a weekly basis. I have just had two phone calls berating me for doing the good deed today of disposing of food that was obviously well past the time that it could be eaten and/or was not dated. The rules have been posted on the bulletin board in the lunchroom for years. It is each employee’s responsibility to follow the rules and to label and date their food and to remove food and containers on a timely basis.
In the future, I won’t be touching any food in the refrigerator but my own. I will not be cleaning up the messes in the refrigerators left by other persons and disposing of the excess ice cubes and wiping clean the refrigerator surfaces and buying baking soda for the refrigerators . When the refrigerators get packed, dirty, smelly and intolerable, I will have to find an alternative location for my food that I bring on a daily basis.
Fighting for Fridge Freshness
I am in the midst of a fight for fridge freshness. Don't ask me how or why. I do not know. All I know is that I am the go to girl for folks interested in fridge freshness. I think I am about to call for a committee on fridge freshness and other related policies. Gowain has taken leadership in keeping one of our three fridges fresh. Every Friday he cleans it out. Now the other two fridges are frightening. Katie has asked that she commandeer the second fridge - leaving only one unmanaged. The fridge of fright it will be called.
Gowain's Fresh Fridge campaign has been very successful. One supporter wrote,
"Gowain's relentless pursuit of fridgidaire freshness has spared many of us from the pitfalls of a potentially putrid pot pie.I don't know if I will ever be comfortable knowing that unchecked odors are able to comingle with my carefully planned and packaged lunch delights.Please empower sir Gowain to remain at the reigns of refrigerator righteousness and keep the foul funk of fridge fermentation from our friends."
So, two down - and then there was one.
Gowain's Fresh Fridge campaign has been very successful. One supporter wrote,
"Gowain's relentless pursuit of fridgidaire freshness has spared many of us from the pitfalls of a potentially putrid pot pie.I don't know if I will ever be comfortable knowing that unchecked odors are able to comingle with my carefully planned and packaged lunch delights.Please empower sir Gowain to remain at the reigns of refrigerator righteousness and keep the foul funk of fridge fermentation from our friends."
So, two down - and then there was one.
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Ah simplicity
I enjoy my life, but I missed Halloween. I spent last week at a conference, and therefore with people I like from work. It was nice to get to know people after there are a couple of drinks in them.
Halloween was spent traveling (read: long hours in airports)instead of dressed up and high on sugar. I really missed getting dressed up. Once I got home exhausted, I just did not have the energy to be creative. I attended the party (at my house) as a travel weary me. Not much of a get-up.
I met lots of interesting folks in the Outback bar at the Orlando airport. I even met a couple of rockers who stepped out of 1983 - Night Ranger t-shirt included! It was not a costume, but an ironic lifestyle choice. These two guys were with Eddie Money - one was the keyboard player (his picture is above) the other was the stage manager. The two gentlemen wear a costume all the time. I guess I do too. I wear makeup and dress for work - though I would rather be in a tee and sweats. I will try to think of it as Halloween every day instead of just being bummed that I have to wait a year.
BTW, Robert has herpes!!!!!! Ha Ha!
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Studpidity
When stupid just does not cut it.... Yes, I am hereby adding this term to my mental dictionary. Studpidity refers to the type of stupidity that breeds. Much like the mucus that is slowly invading my lungs now (Santa, I want pneumonia for Christmas), studpinity has overtaken our televisions (yes, I am talking about you, Glen Beck - you are not a thinker!)and is swallowing whole our nation. Case in point: the CEOs that don't understand basic finance but collect $40M, Harvard MBAs that don't understand anything substantive - like running our nation or a baseball team, college students that despite a pretty decent education refuse to think critically, and the idealistic who are morphing quickly into do-nothing cynics. Studpinity is a hella fine word.
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Will Wonders Never Cease
I have been struggling with a mucus attack of late. I have gross stuff coming out of all of my face holes. It majorly sucks. I think my head has decided to bog itself down in the literal morass of our current administration. My head is a metaphor for our struggling economy and embarrassing foreign policy. The painful cough that won't go away and hurts whenever it rears its ugly head? That is our military actions in Afghanistan and Iraq. The sniffles in my nose? That is our market sloughing off into nothing and infecting our neighbors. I blow away the value of our dollar with every sneeze. The drip drip into my ears? That is bipartisan bickering over a solution. Unlike the country, my cold is getting better and will likely pass in the next couple of days. I simply need to continue to flush my system with tons of water.... hmm.... I won't go there.
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