My nephew is 3 years old and at an important stage in his psycho-social development. He is learning key concepts like right and wrong, actions and consequences, and who he is as an individual. Some people do not make it through this stage, and their lives are a series of failures. I have observed three distinct flavors of this type of crazy:
1. The schemer: Someone that is always looking for the quick and easy and will not put effort into anything. They believe that their next get rich plan will pay off. They never take responsibility for their own failings.
2. The martyr: The victim of life, who finds him or herself making poor choices and ending up in problematic situations. Life happens to them, and again they cannot reflect and take responsibility for the decisions they made. The concept of real consequences is lost on them.
3. The torcher: One who is so full of self-loathing, that s/he has to burn every bridge and sabotage every relationship and good thing that happens to him or her in order 1) to feel in control and 2) to prove their unworthiness.
All three personalities have a warped sense of reality, are unable to adequately self-reflect and grow, and live terrible lives.
I think in part that these personalities are from bad wiring to begin with, but also something going wrong during their ego development at age 3. I have great hopes for my nephew.
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