My Masculine Mind

All the BS arguments about how women are one way and men are another aside, I listen to people in a way that is most associated with masculinity. I do not simply listen and offer supporting affirmations. I just don't do it. My mind instead starts churning out possible variables and solutions. You have presented me with a puzzle or a problem and I want to help you solve it. That is the way my mind works. I take on the sharing of your burden. It becomes mine as well. I game theory it out with several Boolean type pathways. While this is especially useful for me professionally, it does not always meet the needs/expectations of my friends and family. They know my limitations and strengths. If they present me with a problem, I will present them with options to explore. If they want someone to just listen in a non-judgmental way, they talk to my husband.