Spoke to my stepmother over the 4th of July weekend. She and my dad are watching my step-nephew and nieces because their mom is recovering from surgery and their dad has decided he is no longer interested in being a father. What a dick. After over a decade of marriage and three beautiful kids, he has decided to walk away from his marriage and his responsibilities. You don't want to be married anymore? Fine. But you don't get to just stop being a father... especially when the kids need you. Be a fricking man already. Grandma and Grandpa should not have to step up and be stand-in parents because you have teen feelings. The kids can sleep over at your new bachelor pad while your soon to be ex-wife recovers from the hysterectomy necessitated in part by giving birth to your children (you know the ones you wanted at the time). They should not become the responsibility of people who already did their part... raising their own children.
The decision to have a family - to have children is not a something you did on a whim. The three kids were not accidents. You and your wife decided that you wanted a family together. Beyond your simple marriage vows, you made a commitment to the children to be a father and to your wife to co-parent. If you don't want to be a parent, then keep it wrapped up and make sure your partner knows she will be on her own before conception takes place. It is more honest.
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